If you asked our boyz what time is curfew… you would get the answer: “I don’t know” It is not because they don’t have a curfew, it’s because it depends on what they are doing.
If you Google this topic, “teenage curfews”. Parents you should be surprised… today’s kids generally don’t have a curfew… wtf? Did you hear the news today? The ages of offender, victims, and criminals are getting younger and younger. For example, just recently a 16 yr old boy rolled his truck in a mall parking lot, in the middle of the day and one of the four teens died. Can you imagine what this boy is going to go through for the rest of his life? This young man’s actions affect not only him but those in the vehicle and their families. Apparently he was speeding and lost control. Parents are supposed to protect their children until they are older and wiser to be able to make responsible decisions to avoid major life altering situation. This newscast really scared me on how easy this could happen to anyone. Just educating your teens and constantly telling them the “what ifs” of life. Yes, parents don’t know everything but I do have 25 years more experience than my children!!
Each time the boyz ask to attend an event, to be out late, etc. Us as parents can weight the danger and analyze the risk to ensure they come home safely. For example, to drive across town on a Friday night, threw an area with restaurants or bars between the hours of 11:00 – 1:00 am. The answer would be no…”to drive”. It may not be “no” to the event… but the compromise would be “I’ll drive you”. We just reduced the risk. I can remember as a teenager thinking my Mother was wrong and didn’t understand… but she was right way more than she was wrong.
Children do not have the street smarts, nor the ‘lesson’s learned’ to make these responsible decisions. When do you let them be adults? When they are adults, duh! My boyz all have curfews… yes even the 21 year old. The times vary depending on the activity and the dangers involved. Our house is usually grand central station… which I love. Teenagers are going in and out of the house up to 11 – 12 o’clock at night during the weekend. It doesn’t matter to me, because they know this is a safe environment and I know where my hoodlums are. Trust is an important factor. They do not have to have a 3 am curfew to prove there are trusted. We can have trust anytime during the day… but nothing good ever happens after midnight.
Do you know where you children are?
If you Google this topic, “teenage curfews”. Parents you should be surprised… today’s kids generally don’t have a curfew… wtf? Did you hear the news today? The ages of offender, victims, and criminals are getting younger and younger. For example, just recently a 16 yr old boy rolled his truck in a mall parking lot, in the middle of the day and one of the four teens died. Can you imagine what this boy is going to go through for the rest of his life? This young man’s actions affect not only him but those in the vehicle and their families. Apparently he was speeding and lost control. Parents are supposed to protect their children until they are older and wiser to be able to make responsible decisions to avoid major life altering situation. This newscast really scared me on how easy this could happen to anyone. Just educating your teens and constantly telling them the “what ifs” of life. Yes, parents don’t know everything but I do have 25 years more experience than my children!!
Each time the boyz ask to attend an event, to be out late, etc. Us as parents can weight the danger and analyze the risk to ensure they come home safely. For example, to drive across town on a Friday night, threw an area with restaurants or bars between the hours of 11:00 – 1:00 am. The answer would be no…”to drive”. It may not be “no” to the event… but the compromise would be “I’ll drive you”. We just reduced the risk. I can remember as a teenager thinking my Mother was wrong and didn’t understand… but she was right way more than she was wrong.
Children do not have the street smarts, nor the ‘lesson’s learned’ to make these responsible decisions. When do you let them be adults? When they are adults, duh! My boyz all have curfews… yes even the 21 year old. The times vary depending on the activity and the dangers involved. Our house is usually grand central station… which I love. Teenagers are going in and out of the house up to 11 – 12 o’clock at night during the weekend. It doesn’t matter to me, because they know this is a safe environment and I know where my hoodlums are. Trust is an important factor. They do not have to have a 3 am curfew to prove there are trusted. We can have trust anytime during the day… but nothing good ever happens after midnight.
Do you know where you children are?
